Only my daughter.

Only my daughter.

I thought this was a good mask for our walk around the neighborhood. Owen refused to do it.



I knew the kids were downstairs watching TV but I didn’t expect to see this setup. Their daddy spoils them.


He is working more hours now than before—sometimes starting before 7 and trying to finish by 6 but getting calls at all hours. He even worked ALL weekend. So since it was so nice today he tried to take a little break to play catch with the kids. It lasted about 10 minutes before he got a phone call.





I love it when they do stuff like this…
but it eventually mutates into some type of argument.
Trying to be creative in using up leftovers, some fresh ingredients, and stuff from the freezer… I present pepperoni cheese bites (kids) and steak/ham/jalapeno/cheese bites (us)
The kids were beyond thrilled with this lunch. Sometimes I do get a mom win.


They’re cleaning right now…but please tell me we’re not alone.

Also? They cleaned for a whopping two minutes before they started playing with the toys. WHAT DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND ABOUT CLEANING UP? Yet if I stand there and micromanage they throw a fit.
Honestly, the only rule they really have is that I need to be able to walk to the pantry and the cat room without tripping on anything. If they would just keep those pathways cleared I would be much more lenient. But they don’t. So then I have to let loose on everything else.
P.S. Granted it was over a week, but it’s what happens when they NEVER put anything away when you’re done with it and Mom isn’t standing over them nagging.
My neighbor texted to say that her kids wanted to hide some eggs for Owen and Katie. They had a blast hunting for them and discovering their spoils!


I think her sticky note habit is getting out of control. We found these stuck to the walls by their food dishes.


I am so tried of every single little issue that I have to take care of or referee. Poor Tom gets an earful every time he ventures up for a bathroom or coffee break.
I know it’s just the start and we’ll get into a rhythm, but for now, it’s exhausting. I don’t know how parents with more kids or a full-time job are doing if I’m this much of a stressball.
For me


For Tom (he had issues with someone at work today)


But I did get the kids with this today! (I also got their friends, since they were on a video call with them. But the friends called me out within a minute or so.

After Katie’s note to Tom last night, I teased her that I felt she wanted me to have a bad day…look what I found on my phone charger tonight. 🥰🥰🥰


I’ve created a pretty good schedule—learning in the morning (broken up into subject blocks) with all afternoon for creative play and outside time. With time planned to check media and chat with friends. And I do know that the schedule isn’t hard and fast so I’m trying to be lenient.
But I just can’t deal with Katie arguing that 11-3=2 (she knows better, she’s just really stubborn and refuses to admit she’s wrong) and that you can make the word CAME from CAMPING. She’s arguing that her workbook isn’t school (no, technically it’s not from school but it IS schoolwork). And she’s lost her laminated login/password sheet which we obviously need…and she’s “looking” for it by sitting at the computer and staring at the monitor… Until I tell her to keep looking until she finds it…and 2 minutes later she’s doing something else. 😒
Owen is better overall…but once he got online for his Google class meeting, all was lost. I let him finish his blocked time and let him know he needed to wrap it up… But almost 45 minutes later he was still chatting PLUS he decided to play his recorder and sax for his friend (there’s that noise I posted about earlier). I know he’s excited to talk to his friends, but it makes me stabby when he’s just ignores me.
I know everyone has different schedules so I’m trying to be forgiving but I’m losing my mind…on Day 2, hour 2. 😭 This is something I didn’t even think about as going to be challenging.
I know this is new for ALL of us and it will likely get better but until then… Sigh.
Happily working on her workbook before she lost her bananas…

Look what happens when you don’t wash for a full 20 seconds!

Katie left this for Tom on our door. How sweet, right? To me it says she couldn’t give two shits about my day tomorrow.

Owen left this on my side of the bed. Not sure what this means. Maybe I should sleep with one eye open.

I did a daily schedule the first week we were out of school. It worked pretty well. The kids knew what time blocks came next and pretty much stuck to it on their own.

Then came the week of spring break and we got off the rails a little. I revised the schedule a little in preparation of the anticipated actual distance learning… Only to have the teacher’s schedule sent out after I had finished so I had to revise a little. After a day of no one really even following it…I came up with a new schedule that put all academics in the morning so when it was lunchtime, that was the end of school. I had been trying to break it up throughout the day but I kind of think it made it harder, so…we’ll see. I actually hate having a schedule at all, but if we didn’t have it, every day would be a dumpster fire as no one would do any schoolwork but they’d beg for tech all day.
I already see some minor changes I want to make, and I’m sure this will get edited a few more times before we get settled into our new learning routine. We have at least a month ahead of us…

I’m appreciative that we are able to do distance learning and that I am actually able to be here for the kids and it’s not a hardship for us…but it is frustrating that ALL the hard work I did to get the kids detoxed from tech has all been wiped away within two weeks.
I gave Katie some new face paints awhile back and she’s been begging to use them but she didn’t want to do it herself—and Owen wouldn’t let her paint on him—so today Tom promised he would paint her face. And they decided on a poop emoji.

She was so excited when it was done and she loved it so much she could barely stand still.

After this she did get Owen to paint on her arms…and eventually it led to getting paint all over the couch so that wasn’t fun. But I got it mostly cleaned up so all was well.
When you’re watching TV in your room and the kids are playing and then you get a video call from your kids.

I gave Owen and Katie a small Lego project to work on together and they managed to do it without much argument or fighting. Katie really liked playing with it, too.


It was nice today (57°!) so we took a walk to do a photo scavenger hunt and leave chalk notes on people’s driveways!







The kids went across the street to decorate the driveway of a single older lady. Owen also told me her brought her trash up to the house. ❤️

As far as for social distancing? Every single person that we saw and had to pass kept the right distance. Sometimes we moved out of the way, sometimes they moved out of the way. Thankfully we didn’t see any kids at the park but I would’ve lost my mind.
I was really happy about all this because I keep hearing stories about how parks are FULL of kids with and without parents around?!?! GRRR. I just think a lot of people are in the “it’s not going to happen to me” camp. And, of course, in the best case scenario, we won’t see anything happen at all and we will think all of this was for nothing. But that just means that it worked.
Anyway, they really had a lot more fun than I thought they would. Now we just need lots more nice days…
I treated myself when we got back… uncovered my egg chair and had a drink!




The kids went outside today…and ignored my instructions about playing with neighbors… SO THAT WAS…FUN.
SETTLE IN, Y’ALL…here’s what happened on our first day of self-distanced shelter-at-home Spring Break.
The day was going as expected with sibling squabbles and whining about iPad time and complaining about little chores and me not getting to the taxes because work stuff popped up. So I finally sent them outside…and that was the beginning of the fall.
What happened you ask? Well, I might have gone a little crazy bonkers yelling at the kids when they ignored my instructions about playing with neighbors…
Granted it wasn’t one of my better parenting moments but we have just been stressing the importance of staying away from EVERYONE—learning how quickly germs travel and talking about it all the time and why it’s important and how we’re sorry you can’t play with friends now…and then to see them wilfully disobey me? Not good.
Yes, I know they’re kids. Yes, I know they forget—SQUIRREL!!—which is exactly why I said just talk across yards. But then it became “we’ll stay apart” in the driveway and I said no because you’re kids and we can’t trust that you will STAY apart even though you think you will. Heads hanging they went back outside. And the next thing I know I hear screams of kids having fun in our yard so I went to look—really hoping they were being good—and I saw five of them all too close.

Now am I really and truly worried that something bad is going to happen? No. I’m practically the farthest thing from a germaphobe you might find—but I’m trying to be proactive here because too many people think it’s no big deal and look where that got us?
So I was THAT mom who opened the front door and screamed to her children to get their butts inside and for the neighbor kids to GO HOME. I might have been loud enough for long enough that Tom came up from the office downstairs to see what was going on. And then we both proceeded to let the kids know why we were upset with them—for probably a good 10 minutes. Again, not terribly proud of how we handled it but I was just shaking I was so mad. Like I was kind of scared at how mad I was. We then made the kids strip and put their clothes in the wash and take showers (total overkill even for me but we wanted to prove a point).
After they showered and I had calmed down a bit, I hugged them both and apologized for losing my cool but explained that I just wanted to keep them and us and everyone around us safe so they need to trust us when we tell them what they can and can’t do. And emphasized yet again that we are also missing our friends—we’re not punishing them.
The whole thing was rough. And it totally sucked. But tomorrow is a new day and I’ll give myself some grace and we’ll move on. And keep a closer eye on the kids.
So use this post to prepare yourself for if and when this happens in your house so you can avoid acting like a crazy person to your kids.


I started the kids on the Lego challenge calendar because we’ve been watching Lego Masters and they love it—so figured this would be a big treat.

Ha. Hahaha. Katie didn’t want to do the first one I picked (rockets) and Owen didn’t want to do the second (pizza) do they did Rock Paper Scissors and tied like six times. Owen finally won which sent Katie into a fit because she “didn’t know how to build a rocket and she’s stupid.”
Sigh. No good deed goes unpunished.
So after some counseling, they both worked on rockets. Katie eventually gave up but Owen did finish.


I’m not sure when we’re going to attempt this again.
Tom and Owen don’t enjoy puzzles but here they are because it’s a Michigan State Puzzle. 🧩🏈 Needless to say I did most of what you see here and no one lasted long.

And here’s Maggie, who doesn’t quite understand.



Extrapolate this to similar events happening ALL DAY LONG and you can see why it’s mentally EXHAUSTING.
As of 9:30 we were already off schedule because Katie “forgot to eat” so her reading time is taken up with eating. She asked if she could finish reading during creative time (the next block). I said yes. (Also, if her normal body clock has her hungry at 9:30, school starts WAAAY TOO EARLY but I digress.)
When it finally is time to read, do you think she picks up either of the two books she has been reading? Of course not. Plus we are still working on being able to tell us what happens in a story because we recently figured out that she hasn’t actually been reading to comprehend. 🤦🏻♀️
And Owen… he has been asking for the next Harry Potter book forever and so we finally were able to check it out online so he can read it on the Kindle and what does he grab? The same Captain Underpants books he’s read four times already. 🤦🏻♀️
So Owen is reading as scheduled and humming while he reads. Katie of course has sat down RIGHT next to him so asks him to stop. He doesn’t—nd honestly shouldn’t have to because she has a whole house she can read in. She refuses to move to her “book nook” she created in the other room AND ASKED TO LEAVE OUT. Owen then starts humming even crazier JUST to annoy her. Mad props to him but I can’t say that so I tell him that isn’t nice but she does move to another room. When the official reading block is up I remind her she was going you finish and she flat out refuses to continue reading even though SHE JUST ASKED to finish her reading.